Showing posts with label Shine Project. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Shine Project. Show all posts

August 5, 2011

They Saved Me..

I'm back this afternoon for a link up to The Shine Project, this weeks link up is about friendships. I had planned on writing a post about friendship in honor of Friendship Day on Sunday anyway, so this was perfect!

There are 4 people in my life who, in their own way, have saved my life. They are all equally important in my life, so I'll just list them in the order they entered my life.




First we have Maria {also known to me as: Mia, Mimi, Meems, or Lovely.} We have been friends since 1999 {that's 12 years folks.} We met in the seventh grade, and despite a rocky beginning- she has always been one of my greatest blessings. We had similar circumstances in our childhoods and quickly bonded. She practically lived with us during middle and high school. She has seen me through more trials than anyone else, she's just been around longer! There is not a single person in this world who knows or understands me better than her. She is a walking, talking reflection of my heart {without the walls.} She is the sweetest most kind hearted person I know. She has saved my life in more ways than one; but I will forever owe her for opening my eyes and saving my marriage.




Next we have Ashley- we met and were instant friends in 2005. Much like Maria, Ashley is a blonde version of me. We couldn't be more alike if we tried. When we see each other we literally laugh ourselves to sleep. My friendship with Ashley {and Maria} surpasses the normal bounds of friendship. In my heart they are just as much a part of me as Olivia. Without the two of them I would not be me. Ashley has a sweet soul, and a southern girl attitude! She is witty and smart. Ashley is the friend that looks at me when I'm being dumb and says, "Sarah- honey, that's stupid." And sometimes that's just what I need.




This is Chance. You've met him before- but I would be horribly mistaken to not include him in this list. Chance is so much more than my husband. We have walked a long and difficult road together, and came out hold hands on the other end. We officially met on March 20, 2006. That was our first date. I knew then that he was the one for me. Shortly after we married he held my hand through the hardest season in my life. Without him I'm not sure I would have survived it, literally. The loss of my PawPaw shattered the core of my life and forced me into a state of depression that I'd never known. He was there the whole time. Every single agonizing minute. Yet to say that we've always been happy and our relationship has always reflected the love we feel would be a lie. In the first 2 1/2 years of our marriage- I would wager to say that there were more unhappy days than happy ones. There have been many nights that we would both lay in bed and wonder what we were doing.  With the birth of our daughter in March of 2010 came the dawn of a new day for us. Suddenly our love had purpose. We had someone that made it all worth fighting for, someone that meant just as much to him as she did me. So we worked at it, we were honest, we trusted. We have stared down the devil in our marriage and we won.




In loving Chance I "inherited" Nikki. She and I never went through that "get to know you phase." I've loved her since before I met her. {I don't think we ever met in person until 2009} She and Chance had been best friends for many years, and she was such an important part of his life. I loved her because she loved him. Simple as that. When I had Olivia in 2010 we got even closer. And even closer still almost exactly a year later when she welcomed her sweet Ellie to the world. {That's her that I'm holding in the picture above. Check out that hair!} Since we both became mothers our friendship is so much more. Nikki is the one who "gets" all the mom stuff. The one I can do a bible study on motherhood with, or call when i read a really great parenting article. She is walking this new road with me and we are both learning. It's truly a blessing.


June 30, 2011

I am enough ... The Shine Project

The Shine Project was started by a truly inspirational woman named Ashley. She explains on her blog what the project is all about.
"I have decided, that now is the time to excel in life. Now is the time to be better than I have ever been, and to accomplish things that I never thought I'd be able to do.
As I reach my goals, I want my 'light' and happiness to rub off on others.


This is what The Shine Project is all about:
Going out of your comfort zone to bring light to those who need hope.
The Shine Project emulates love, sacrifice, and CHANGE."
 Motivating, right? Yeah, I thought so too.
This week's challenge is to post about the most influential thing you have learned this month about body image.

I have learned that I am enough. Now, that's two fold. I am enough as a woman (wife, mother, daughter, etc.) AND I am enough physically. I don't know about all of you, but after I had Olivia I began to feel "less than." I have felt as though I was "less than" attractive, I felt as though I was "less than" I should be too my husband, I felt as though I was "less than" a good friend. The first step that changed my way of thinking was reminding myself that although I now had stretch-marks and bags under my eyes and I was so scatter brained I barely remembered to eat everyday- much less call a friend; I had this amazing little girl who needed me. And she deserves the best version of me I can give her. 



Fast forward a few months and goodness knows how many self-help books-- now I KNOW...

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Now, does that mean that I have rock star abs and I always look like a super model when my hubby walks through the door? That would be a resounding "No." But that's not the end of the story, far from it actually. I have learned that I AM enough for my husband, I AM enough for my friends. I'm so thankful that I came across this picture on Pinterest a couple of weeks ago. SO THANKFUL! It completely changed my perspective. In short- it moved me. The photo I originally saw was accompanied by this:
"A mark for every breath you took, every blink, every sleepy yawn. One for every time you sucked your thumb, waved hello, closed your eyes and slept in the most perfect darkness. One for every time you had the hiccups. One for every dream you dreamed within me. It isn't very pretty anymore. Some may even think it ugly. That's OK. It was your home. It's where I first grew to love you, where I lay my hand as I dreamed about who you were and who you would be. It held you until my arms could, and for that, I will always find something beautiful in it." 

Yes, that is my stomach. I told you it changed my perspective. So much so that I am willing to post a picture of my stomach for the entire world to see on the internet. Two weeks ago if you told me that I would be sitting here typing this post, I probably would have laughed in your face. But here I am and I'm so glad about it! I feel like a new woman. 
So, to any of you out there who feel like you might be "less than" let me leave you with one thought today. 
Get ready it's a doosy.

You don't have to be perfect to be who He designed you to be. 

The good Lord knew from the beginning of time that you would have those stretch marks, that you wouldn't have lost all those "holiday pounds" just yet. Let me tell you- none of that matters. Be the best you that you can be; and that sweet friends, will always be ENOUGH.